About 40 years ago as feminism around the world rose to a visible phenomenon, a heated dialogue came up with a question posed as, what is it that the feminists are eagerly going after? Answering some difficult questions, equality between women and men was set on top of feminists’ agenda.
Is happiness the key? We should know by now that changes and advancements in our lives are motivated by an underlying and mysterious physiological effect in our body and soul called happiness. We simply and ultimately do things to make us eventually happy. Therefore it is not too far fetch to assume the founders of the feminist movement were ultimately after more happiness for women and in a wider range for men.
Although feminism might be dressed up as a modern problem that a male dominated world is facing today, it is in the same old category of what is a right and what is a privilege? What is justice and what is equality? The answer to these fundamental questions might surprise you.
Equality in a strict term means sharing resources and access levels to those resources without any prejudice towards the applicant’s gender, race, origin and religious beliefs. For example, if there is an apple pie in the room where 12 people of different gender, age and race are present, you must equally divide and share the pie amongst all whether they request a slice of the pie or not. Equality is a system of belief that is very much in line with ideologies that strive for creating an ideal world.
However in a room where justice is practiced, the share of the pie will be different based on some quantitative metrics, such as the level of calories needed for a person to function at the same level of other attendees in the room. It seems a just system needs to be tweaked. Where in an equality-based system would the judge rest his/her case on an easy judgment with one shot? What is then to blame in a blind process?
Equality is not natural. Nature does not treat everyone the same. There are many factors involved in becoming a unique individual in nature’s photo album. It needs lots of tries and effort to pass other competitors to cut the red tape and overcome the odds. In addition, it is not practical. No matter how hard you try you cannot find two exact moments, places and resources to give rise to two identical outcomes. Therefore other than the mind of the creators of this ideology, there is no external world that can give birth to this idea of equality.
Now we are left with a hard, and bumpy road called justice. Although equality exists at first and then impossible to materialize in the outer world, justice does not exist at the beginning. A just system that works to share apple pies can’t be used to share resources in a health care system. In order to have a just health care system you have to invent its own fair system of users’ accesses and utilization. So it is true about the outcome of a fair system, that it cannot produce instantaneous and tangible results right from the beginning. It requires patience and cares to get the justice tree to bear fruits.
So, are women equal to men? Let me answer you by asking if you believe even women are equal to other women? There are no two equal women, so leave alone the attempt to equate women to men categorically. Let’s not fall for the media hype and sexually hungry politicians who mislead us by diverting the subject of justice-for-all to a non-existing ideology of equality.
By appealing to women to gain more happiness, feminists have tried to establish a system based on equality for the last 40 years. But then based on a recent report on “The Paradox of Declining Female Happiness” we’ve learned the outcomes of this ideology is far graver than what was initially assumed.
The impact of this report’s findings is more terrifying when we compare the gain of the feminist movement compared to what we have lost. One of the biggest impacts of the loss was absorbed by the building block of any society, called family. As a result of feminist movement women are now facing more options and possibilities, therefore escaping the problems. Erasing the question rather than answering it seemed to be a better fit than staying and facing the problems.
Women’s independence took higher priority than staying loyal to the family as a whole. As a result the divorce rate has been climbing on to an unprecedented level, the number of children born out of wedlock with little or no attachment to the concept of family has sored, and providing a secure environment to raise a family has plummeted. All these would be an acceptable side effect based on feminist ideology but the decline in women’s happiness is a major blow to this broken belief.
Although we should accept that feminism was a valid and loud cry for help at the beginning, but it wasn’t equipped enough to guide women through the incoming rough patches ahead of them. A male dominated world that has been dictating mandates to women to suck-it-up and put up with abusive husbands and environments, did give rise to the birth of feminism.
Feminism then created a mirage of utopian society that the ultimate result was happiness for women. They prescribed that women’s happiness will be everyone else’s and then justified or ignored the side effects based on the same thoughts. We were taught by this system that a happy child comes from a happy mom and a happy mom can use all of her means to achieve and maintain that happiness.
If you open your TV and browse through sitcom channels, you will find that a utopian family comprises of a sexy mom with emotions at hand, a dysfunctional partner who is very functional in bed, with lavish kids disconnected from all aspects of family except connected to the rest via their stomachs at the dinner table.
All that said will require us to picture the prefect man in response to rejecting feminism. We all know that the old school of macho men who liked to walk at least two steps ahead of their proprietary women does not work any more. Women rightly or wrongly want their share in their partnered lives and a lazy couch potato isn't going to satisfy them.
Therefore men have to be pushed to consider their women’s happiness in their day-to-day activities. As a result it is men who should be mandated and held accountable for this task not a blind justice system, which is out of touch from every families' situation. The current justice systems in the industrial world has no time or resource to be assigned to each family’s unique problems and request a comprehensive research before condemning the men.
Currently in the most modern countries the justice system has sets of predefined rulings for the judges that primarily assumes men as the violators. If you have the slightest experience with these justice systems you realize how general and out of touch these rulings are. We need to abolish any woman-centered law in the industrialized societies that were influenced by the feminist movement and replace them with family-centered laws that emphasize on the individual rights of the member of the family in context of the wholeness of the family. The laws should prevent the disintegration of families instead of accelerating their dismemberment.
In the new and up-coming industrial societies we should strongly oppose feminist and women’s equal rights movement and replace them with the motto of justice for all. Women do not belong to a minority group. They are not disadvantaged, disabled and helpless. The issue of individual rights should be addressed in its own context not in the cost of destroying families and eventually societies. Women’s rights is the right of human beings but by pursuing only women’s rights we’ll abandon other human rights and will eventually destroy the human rights.
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