A Rose for the Women of the Website


A Rose for the Women of the Website
by rosie is roxy is roshan

I swear to god, I didn't search for the picture, it was one of the first hits that came up for "female "nude and how could I resist? That's the way it's been lately, every time I google for something for this website, something..almost uncanny...just...pops up...

We've been having all these amazing discussions lately, the women here and me, about, you know, "womanny" things, about whether women's sex drive is really less than men's, about woman's feelings about porn, even about whether we preferred "cut" or "uncut" men. About pregnancy and loneliness in relationship, you know, things like that.And a few women had wanted me to blog about the sex drive thing and I said okay, I'll do it, and that's when I found the photo. But I thought about it and I thought why blog on women's sex drive, I'd rather just blog about the women themselves. 

When I first came to the blogging in October '07 the website was at war especially on the political threads and there were very very few women who bothered to participate in them, and I was one and Natalia was another, probably because we weren't Iranian so we weren't jaded by all this partciular Iranian brand of testosterone overload. There were of course several other women whom I got close to, more o the poetic side of things, but overall the website discourse was terribly lopsided on the side of the "guy guy thing" and it wasn't very pretty.

Over the course of time as the website has evolved and things have settled down (Gaza aside..) so many women have emerged and their voices make this website sing. They're strong women, they're warriors, warriors who fight for the right to express our deepest feelings, our grappling with our sexual identity, warriors for the expression of what must be the universal desire for peace in tender yet impassioned ways. And for the right of human discourse to wander and come back again without being fettered by rigid categories.

I do not believe that men and women are fundamentally different in our capacity to love or or desire to give or receive pleasure or in our essential vulnerability or our wanderings. Or in our strength and ability to fight when it's necessary to fight, and to be hard-headed. I believe it's all just a balancing act which  humanity is juggling in our evoluton, a fight which we're winning.  And a fight which is so crucially being fought in today's Iran.

And so instead of blogging about the sex thing, I thought I'd just give the women of the website a rose to thank you for being here.  It has nothing to do with Rosie. It's your rose and every day blooms brighter.

And for the website men too who are wandering and singing with us. It's your rose and every day blooms brighter.

It's our rose. It's everyone's rose. It's humanity's rose.

Fardaa roshanast.


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anonymous fish

pay no attention to jealous females...:-)

by anonymous fish on

what a shame that such a lovely gesture on your part is contaminated by ungrateful people.  i know you don't take it personally but i just wanted to say it anyway.


rosie is roxy is roshan

It is absolutely true what you say, vociferous and

by rosie is roxy is roshan on

brilliant Iranian goldfish, and when a new group of recruits do better than you and oust me from here or at least GAG me or re-educate me, I am sure they will be careful to do the same with the three or four scraggly and almost universally loathed Iranian morons here who like me. You know, my apparatchiks and collaborateurs who probably aren't even Iranian anyway.

Needless to say the fact that I've devoted almost all my time here these past weeks exclusively to the Israel/Palestine conflict is proof positive that I am here to establish myself as the be all and end all, the Queen of All Things Iranian.


PS Comfortable to throw sucker punches without even giving yourself a recognizably human name, isn't it, and a strategically brilliant move to add credibility to your "case" against me. You are justifiably proud of yourself. You go grrrl!




by Anonymous and stoopid Iranian female (not verified) on

Derakhshandeh...bikhialesh baba joon...better people have tried and failed miserably...Rosie is the be all and end all of all that is Iranian!!!...She rules this domain and all others... the rest of us inferiors don't count,until she showed up and enlightened us in 2007... lets ignore the fact that this site has been here since mid to late 90's...all hail Rosie Iranian god queen!!

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Thank you Rosie for being here

by I Have a Crush on Alex Trebek on

Thank you. 

rosie is roxy is roshan

Actually Derakhshandeh I tried to draft a response to

by rosie is roxy is roshan on

that post of yours but doing so required an analysis of such a short post with so many misconceptions, omissions and mischaracterizations etc. that the very looking at my reply to you after I finished it irritated me so much that I've deleted it...and am replacing it instead with a shorter reply, which is: 





Rosie this is not true

by Derakhshandeh (not verified) on

Women have ALWAYS been a big part of i.com from the beginning to the new format, now and the future. If you came on board in 2007 but noticed only the so called political discussions it's not women's fault.

Just scroll back to whatever time period you like, click about 200 or 300 pages back till you get to 2007, and see of all the articles and blogs how many were written by women and how many by men.

anonymous fish

a lovely gesture

by anonymous fish on

"I, Woman, am that wonder-breathing rose that blossoms in the garden of the king."

Go raibh maith agat, Roiban!


Rosie Jaan

by SM (not verified) on

Rosie Jaan,

A single rose is a garden in full bloom.

God Bless you,


Natalia Alvarado-Alvarez

kheyli motashakkeram

by Natalia Alvarado-Alvarez on

khahesh mikonam :o)

I knew that you would like it. It is one of my favorite songs.

I thought it would be perfect for your most excellent blog.

Nice song "Those were the days".

Good selection! :o)





rosie is roxy is roshan

You two..

by rosie is roxy is roshan on

I was totally aware of the probability that there were numerous female fishes, Warrior, maybe I should've mentioned it, but I was thinking about the reg users who had a CLEAR feminine identity. Or masculine. I do think it's important to assert that. I remember Arezoo, she always particpated on the political blogs at that time and her specialty was nuclear energy, I never got involved in that issue because I really think the future is in solar but I admired her tenacity and ability to debate with the men on exactly the same terms and with the same language, Soraya same. Arezoo was a fish but w/a consistent identity. We had a great deal of admiration for each other although we were so different.

Natalia...se how I made you famous again for fifteen minutes? (LOL, it's a saying from Andy Warhol. I really like the clip. Thx.)

Those were the days..We've been through a lot..



thank you for the rose, rosie

by woman warrior (not verified) on

but you shouldn't asssume that the person behind the anonymous pseudonym is always a man. i have been participating in the political discussions from the beginning, and i never mentioned my gender, because it was irrelevant. i am sure there are a lot us out there : )

i always enjoy your posts.

Natalia Alvarado-Alvarez

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