by Natalia Alvarado-Alvarez

Long, long ago, I did a personality match quiz out of curiosity. What type of man would make "Mr. Right for me"? What can I say, I have an inquisitive mind. Yes, I know that curiosity killed the cat but according to my son, "satisfaction brought it back." The results of my personality match were rather interesting and yet contradictory at times.

In Assertiveness, I was rated as low, which would not make me a good candidate for leadership, positions as I have a shy type of personality. (Yes, I know how shocking!!) It also means that I am "very friendly, considerate, generous and willing to compromise".

I could not believe it when it said I "avoid disagreements and conflicts". Hello! I joined Disagreements and conflicts are part of daily business on the website. Well, I was rather sweet when I began to contribute to the website. I must say that thanks to all the debates that I got into on the website, I developed a thick skin.

Well, I guess that I am perceived as friendly and likable which is not bad at all. However, I do stand-up for myself. In all honesty, I would consider my assertiveness to be in between moderate and high. I am however not an aggressive type of personality. A person can be very assertive without being aggressive.

The recommendation of the quiz was for me to find someone less assertive than myself otherwise I might find myself feeling neglected. On the other hand I can more easily adjust my needs and wants more readily than others can. What does that mean?! I am sorry but I need someone that is at least as assertive as I am. I am not a mind reader and I need him to tell me what he wants, needs and desires.

In Self-discipline, I was rated as high. Now, that one did surprise because I thought I would barely make it to moderate. I then read the following "you are able to persist at difficult or unpleasant tasks until they are completed." Well, they are correct that I have an extreme level of perseverance and determination. I just have a very strong will and spirit.

My self-discipline also makes it less likely that I will give into my intuitions and temptations. Sorry, for the men. :o) I will have a tendency to take on a lot of work (workaholic) causing myself undue stress. What is wrong with working hard to succeed? Honestly!

Well, the recommendation was that I needed a man that was as self-disciplined as myself. Someone that would understand why I work long hours at work. Otherwise, the relationship would not work out because I would see him as lazy and unmotivated. He would see me as uncaring because I spent so much time at work.

However how interesting, I never realized before that it was my self-discipline (sense of humor too) that helped me overcome so many difficult and painful obstacles. Perhaps it was due to overcoming so many obstacles that I developed such a high level of discipline. I certainly was not this way, in my youth. Hey! At least, I am honest. I will always be the first one to admit to any flaws.

I was also rated high in Sociability. Surprise! Surprise! I am a people person, which allows me to express how I feel more easily. I also have the ability to put people at ease. Now what I really liked was that it said that I have a high level of optimism, which brings about "positive emotions, enthusiasm, and general happiness". I like the sound of that! :o) It is also the reason some people come to me for advice.

Now the following I found hilarious "you're probably very fun on dates because your social skills make your partner feel comfortable." hahaha I have only been on one date in a decade. Yep! They hit it right on the spot on that one. hahaha Okay, so technically it could be true and the only way to test this hypothesis is to actually go on a date.

In Self-Confidence I scored high. Awesome! I am usually a happy person, like myself very much and rarely worry about how others may see me. Well, I can tell you that I do value my family, and friend’s opinion. I am sure that my partner’s opinion will matter greatly as well.

Part of self-confidence is "acknowledging and accepting one's weaknesses". Like they say "taking the good with the bad". Even though, I am flawed, I work on improving these areas but focus on the positive aspects of whom I am while making continuous improvements.

Due to my high self-confidence, I will be able to attract a partner. Now, that is good to hear. I remember reading somewhere that there is nothing more attractive in an individual than high self-confidence. Perhaps a bit of an exaggeration but it does help.

Finally, I have a high imagination, which helps me to appreciate the beauty in this world. I also enjoy abstract thinking. I like hobbies that involve creative thinking. I like having my brain cells stimulated daily.

I am open-minded about many things. I get bored if I do not get my intellect stimulated often, which is probably why I keep coming back to this website. There are so many intellectuals on this website. I love reading about many issues. I am learning so much.

I did like that due to a high imagination I do respect and have a great appreciation for others culture and beliefs. Sounds like I am multi-cultural in my beliefs and tastes.

Well, there are the results of my personality match quiz and my humble self-analysis of the results. It did make sense in some areas. I could use it as an outline of where I am and need to improve. Therefore, taking the quiz was not a total waste of time. I just wish I could remember where on earth, I took the quiz. hmmm


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Dear MiNeum71

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I would like to congratulate you in being aware of what  you desire in your soul mate. It will facilitate matters for you greatly.



Dear "Natalia Alvarado-Alvarez",

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I figured out many years ago, my perfect match is a girl who shares the basics (character, aim, political view) and is completely different in non-important stuff. So we´d have a mutual basis for shaping our life and variety in the daily life.


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Dear Shirin H

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My apologies, I would haved posted the link to the quiz, if I had it. I had saved the personality match results on a word document long ago. I checked the date on it and it appears that I saved it in the summer of 2007.

I was cleaning  up my computer files when I came across it.  I decided that it would make an interesting topic. It is such a universal theme. Self-analysis and improvement of oneself.




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Dear Natalia,

I was getting to the end to ask you where you found that quiz and then... whAM!
I was thinking if they got 'more' than 50% right, that's pretty good, cause overall everything can be 50-50!
I've been self analyzing for some time now trying to find out why I do what I do.
It can be pretty amazing at times!
If you find anything interesting in this regard...I'm all ears!
Shirin H

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