Monda

Monda Jan

Sorry for your loss.  This must be very painful and for you and your daughter.

Tissan va Azadeh aziz

Local friends who heard about Alicia on the news have been calling to inquire about the "real" reason leading to her death.  That's how incredible this tragedy is to most people, especially those who knew her strong survival skills.

Azadeh jan, thank you for your comment.  That headstone makes sense to me completely. Alicia too will always be remembered by the love everyone felt for her.  What was there not to love?!  

My condolences, Monda jan

From a headstone I once saw:

Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal.

Azadeh

Tragic

I heard about Alicia on the news.  I didn't realize your family knew her, Monda jan.  Unspeakably sad.

Thank you for reading me

Fouzul Bashi, in a 17 year old's developing mind leaning toward abstractions in life, the concept "No Why" is a tough one to process.  She and I are certainly working on it.  I have taken today off to be of help if she needs me nearby.

Yolanda, all my kids' friends have had Persian food, it's one of those things that just happens... no special kindness involved.  Alicia was half Samoan, half European American. 

Nazy jan, Thank you for wise words and the Gibran poem.  That is one of my favorites as well. You know Nazy, I think that life teaches us as parents to allow our loved ones to spread their wings, but I don't think we can ever be properly prepared in that process, to lose them for ever.  Alicia's parents are still in shock, I'm hoping by the second memorial they will open up to the intensity of their real sadness and shed Their tears. 

MM and Azarin, thank you for your sentiments.  

Heartbreaking...

Oh my dear...Such a terrible loss! Totally heartbreaking...:-(

sorry to hear it - parents are not meant to bury own children

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Heif...

I'm sorry to hear of your daughter's loss of a beautiful and vibrant young friend, Monda Jan. How can we ever make sense of a young person's loss? We can't. All we can do is to gather around those alive and to celebrate life as best as we can, saying all that needs to be said and doing all that should be done while we still have a chance. My warm hugs and good vibes to your daughter and her friends as they learn another needlessly painful lesson in life. I pray for Alicia's parents to find the courage and the patience they will need for forging ahead. This is for them:

Children

Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of Life's longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
And though they are with you yet they belong not to you.

You may give them your love but not your thoughts,
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
For their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow,
which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them,
but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward nor tarries with yesterday.

You are the bows from which your children
as living arrows are sent forth.
The archer sees the mark upon the path of the infinite,
and He bends you with His might
that His arrows may go swift and far.
Let your bending in the archer's hand be for gladness;
For even as He loves the arrow that flies,
so He loves also the bow that is stable.

Gibran Khalil Gibran

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It is a parent's worst nightmare! Moment like this, words fail.....Is she Korean? Chinese?

Monda, you are kind! You hosted her for Persian food!

Sorry to hear the tragic loss!

Monda, I am so sorry ...

Awful .. I am so sorry ..   There is no 'Why' ..  It just happens. May time heal her parents.  Take care of your daughter's grief.  It must be so hard for her ..

just surreal...

Thank you.

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Very sorry to hear about Alicia's tragic accident. Heartbreaking...