Reminiscense!

Azadeh Azmoudeh
by Azadeh Azmoudeh
17-Aug-2008
 

While at university back home, in Iran, I had been an active member of the Literature Circle and once a month we would get together in the meeting for the purpose of exchanging ideas. I always had this small blue notebook in which I would write my poetry or anything that went on in those meetings. It has been 20 years since then, and by mere luck while cleaning up my closet (sometimes I can't even find myself in there because of the clutter!!!), I came up with a very old black bag up there in one of the shelf. I cannot express how my hands were shaking while I was opening it. There it was the famouse blue notebook, and all the other stuff that took me right back to that time. Browsing through the note book, I read all those skit and skat that I wrote about the meeting, people that I observed, my to-be future, and my love! There were also some lines from my lost beloved mother who always had this habit of writing her shopping list anywhere she could find, so she would not forget. I also find my diary in there, in which I talked about the dark days of war and etc. All those brough a bitter-sweet memories that took about 3 hours of my time only paging through them. In 20 years so many things have changed, some of the people in our Literature Circle are not among us any more. My parents both passed away, I moved to the US, did not marry the love of my life, did not gain my Ph.d in English Literature as I wanted to, and life took a 180 degree turn.

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Mazloom

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Mazloom


The more I read the more I believe ParsiMan is a jealous woman.  What of it if Azadeh has chosen to tell us more about her personal life?  If that’s what she wants to do who is to stop her.  It just makes her a more of human being than a faked name on a faked avatar.  Was there a big sign up there somewhere that said “Do Not Tell Us About Yourself” that I missed?  Frankly, from my own opinion and based on my own experience it is not a good idea to leave too much personal information because most of us are a bunch of vicious people, and sooner or later some asshole out there will use the information to hurt you, but is it anyone’s business to tell her how to conduct her business?  I don’t think so.


Azadeh Azmoudeh

Dearest Mazloom!

by Azadeh Azmoudeh on

I am not discouraged, nor was I targetting you as one of my blog reader. I think I told you that before. I do not care what ParsiMan says; however, as a human being I need to let him know there's a difference between correcting and criticizing, that much I think I know! Read his last remark, you will realize how defenseless he is when he mentions about piranhas!!! Attacking is his way, that was the only thing I wanted to point out. As for being unregistered, he is. Otherwise he would let others go and check out his blog too, what do you think? Still, I believe in his right and that he is entitled to do whatever, I just don't like someone to come to my BLOG and be disrespectful. And honestly, I am tired to talk about inconsiderate people, let's leave it to that.

PEACE


Mazloom

Azadeh don’t get discouraged

by Mazloom on

Even though ParsiMan and I have criticized you harshly, you are in the right track with your blog.  Believe me or not, the reason people are leaving comments in your blog is because they like you, otherwise if they didn’t care they would read and move on.  I read several blogs and articles everyday but only leave a few comments here and there for the ones that I like, and for the people that I have liked in the past and now read what they write.

I am sure ParsiMan is a registered user, probably a famous one around this website, so he/she has chosen to do his/her criticism under an unregistered name, which is quite all right under the current iraniandotcom policy.  He/She probably does not want to be known by his/her registered name, perhaps because he/she does not want to be known as a criticizing person.  And just because he/she has chosen an unregistered name that has a “Man” in it, it does not necessarily mean that this person is a man.

I am not an expert in English language but I believe ParsiMan has his/her own mistakes.  I believe the whole sentence “Regardless of one's English skills, checking the spelling of a document which will be published on a public forum is a matter of blogging etiquette.”  Would be better written as “Regardless of one's English skills, checking the spelling of a document, which will be published on a public forum, is a matter of blogging etiquette.”, or “Regardless of one's English skills, checking spelling of a document that will be published on a public forum is a matter of blogging etiquette.”  I am not even sure “the” in the "checking the spelling” is necessary or not.  Also, “…on the internet”, should be written as “…on the Internet”.

I am just making these points to point out that there are mistakes everywhere and no need to be discouraged.  If anyone wants to start a debate on English grammar I will not debate them myself since I am not an expert, but instead I'll ask a friend on mine who is a professor of English literature and has knowledge of eleven languages to settle these subtleties of English language. 

Best wishes,


Azadeh Azmoudeh

parsiman

by Azadeh Azmoudeh on

Since you do not have any respect for me, then you are not welcome in this blog anymore.

PEACE


bajenaghe naghi

azadeh jan

by bajenaghe naghi on

thank you for your support and your shoulder. but i must tell you that bajenagh is a big boy and never cries. he makes other big boys cry but he himself never ever cries. :-)


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Bajenagh Jan

by ParsiMan (not verified) on

I have utmost respect for you, so I reply to you.

Regardless of one's English skills, checking the spelling of a document which will be published on a public forum is a matter of blogging etiquette. This blogger didn't check her writing, because she was too careless or lazy. I pointed this out to her in a nice way. While appearing to thank me, she challenged me to show her two of her spelling errors. I did.

Last week this same blogger "borrowed" her entire blog from another source and did not mention this, leading some readers to believe that it was her own text. When a reader brought this up with her, at first she was rude and dismissive to him and when she finally realized that even a child could locate that writing on the internet, she admitted it in a half-hearted way.

Whether or not her life allowed her to pursue an academic career, leading to a Ph.D. in English literature, I believe she lacks what it takes to become an academic. This is what I found ironic in her blog.


Azadeh Azmoudeh

Reply To ParsiMan

by Azadeh Azmoudeh on

I think there is no need for me to say anything here. My friends have done enough already. What is interesting to me, and I have noticed is that those who criticize rather than be empathic for what it is being read, are either unregistered (like yourself) or anonymous!!!! As an MFT, it tells me a lot about the personalities of these people.

PEACE


bajenaghe naghi

parsiman jan

by bajenaghe naghi on


if the writers on this site were sanctioned because of bad english we would not have this site. i think it is the content of the message that is important and not how nicely sorry correctly the sentences are structured and written. of course it is important to keep the highest possible standards when one writes, but to most of us english is a second language and some of us are not too educated like yourself and make some mistakes. having said that, what i really want to say is that it is ok to correct someones spelling sometimes but never question or tell off some one or put a damper on some ones dreams to do something or become some one they wish to become. we read all the books we read and use the technology we use because they all started as some ones dreams. 


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Darling, Parsiman

by Saraamin on

First of all Wikipedia is not a very reliable source (refer you to time magazine )by skeptics.Though as an online source it helps .

Secondly , instead of being concern about spelling errors (because Bill gates has thought about people like you and he invented spell check in office package ...oops !)try to come with proper tonality.

finally , the point is if you  read/write/speak English , you would guess those misspellings.I would like to help you with a fine definition of egoism from Merriam-Webster's Dictionary :

Main Entry: ego·ism  Pronunciation: \ˈē-gə-ˌwi-zəm, -gō-ˌi- also ˈe-\ Function: noun Date: 1800 1 a: a doctrine that individual self-interest is the actual motive of all conscious action b: a doctrine that individual self-interest is the valid end of all actions2: excessive concern for oneself with or without exaggerated feelings of self-importance .

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Please Just Use It!

by ParsiMan (not verified) on

You are welcome. Here are three examples of those spelling errors:

"There it was the famouse blue notebook,"...should be "famous."

"I also find my diary in there, in which I talked about the dark days of war and etc."...should be "I also found my diary in there, in which I had talked about the dark days of war, etc."

"All those brough a bitter-sweet memories,"...should be: "All those brought bitter-sweet memories."

These are a few of the things wrong with your text, at least two of which the spell-checker could have located. Also, most of the tenses in your sentences need work, but those are not spelling errors, the point of my earlier comment.

No, it's not contradictory. It is ironic.

From Wikipedia: //en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Irony

Irony is a literary or rhetorical device, in which there is an incongruity or discordance between what a speaker / writer /actor says or does, and what he or she means or what is generally understood.

In modern usage, it can refer to incongruity between the intended meaning of an action and the actual or perceived meaning of an action.

There is some argument about what is or is not ironic, but all the different senses of irony revolve around the perceived notion of an incongruity between what is said and what is meant; or between an understanding of reality, or an expectation of a reality, and what actually happens.

Trust me, please just use the spell-checker next time. The dictionary might come in handy, too.


Azadeh Azmoudeh

Reply to ebi

by Azadeh Azmoudeh on

You are so funny. And what a funny world I have been to Tehran University for my Master's and I bought the note book from "Ketabsara". Such a small world. About my age, and lady's age and secret: 'Cmon! Actually last September when I was celeberating my 40th. Birthday, right at that moment my friends and family asked me to make a toast (you should know that I am the youngest of the siblings, so I hit big four O meant a lot for all of them), so after checking all of them I just said: I have always looking for happiness in others, it has been lately daunted on me that I have never been more happy, beautiful, and free (hence my name) in my whole life. Man! I am fourty and never been happier, and we all drank to that. So age is a number for me, honestly, how I feel inside is different and is great.  

PEACE


Azadeh Azmoudeh

Reply to Bajenaghe Naghi

by Azadeh Azmoudeh on

Dearest Bajenaagh,

I think it is my confrontational personality that I need to face with my weak point and also being solution-focused person I need to find a solution to my misery and done with it. You might have noticed I have done it to some of those who leave comments here. Avoiding something, dearest, only prolong the misery or at least that's how I feel. If you need a shoulder or someone to push you face them and done with, you can count on me:)

PEACE


Azadeh Azmoudeh

Reply to ParsiMan

by Azadeh Azmoudeh on

I appreciate your understanding and comment on my spell-check. but could you please give me two of those "all spelling errors" so I'll watch not to repeat them next time? Pardon my sloppiness. By the way, I don't know if I call it ironic, but contradictory. What do you think?

PEACE


bajenaghe naghi

azadeh jan

by bajenaghe naghi on

mine was a brown book and unlike you i stop myself from getting it and reading it. it is as though i am running away from what there is in that notebook. that is really weird but it is true. i know it will bring back the time i was very young, lonely and away from my parents and family. so i tend to avoid reading it. 


AmirAshkan Pishroo

natural born divorced

by AmirAshkan Pishroo on

So, no big losses for you here!

Are you implying you would divorce her, anyway?


ebi amirhosseini

Azadeh jaan

by ebi amirhosseini on

Now its your turn to make me feel nostalgic!.You won't believe it if I tell you that I had a blue notebook too,bought from a shop across Tehran University & wrote any poem that I liked in it & a lot of other small notes.Unfortunately my wife has displaced it some years ago ( since she likes to move stuff around a lot).I hope one day I find it,who knows?.

P.S.

Dokhtar Jaan never tell anyone,how many years since those days!!!

A lady's age is her secret!!!

best wishes


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Interesting

by ParsiMan (not verified) on

This was interesting. None of us are doing what we dreamt. Some of us did marry the love of our lives but divorced her. So, no big losses for you here!

P.S. Please spell-check your work before you publish it. I don't want to be mean, but all the spelling errors + your wish for a Ph.D. in English literature seem a bit ironic.


Mazloom

I wish

by Mazloom on

I wish I knew this yesterday.