Life goes full cycle

by javaneh29

We've been talking about returning to Iran. We must be mad as thousands try desperatly to leave.... but somehow it doesnt feel like such a bad idea altogether.

What we will be returning to, I dont know. Iran is a very different place today than it was when I last lived there in Jan '79. How will it be for us there after so many years in the western world..? I just cant imagine as I sit here. I am filled both with apprehension and excitement at the thought of it.

When I first went to live in Iran I was young, adjusted easily, learnt farsi quickly, found a place for myself amongst it all. But what about in todays Iran??

I think for people like me who have duel nationaility, there is always this feeling of not quite belonging to either place, A foot in both worlds. Most of the time it's a bonus but there are times when it is painful, there is often a sense of feeling lost.  Is this a common feeling I wonder? 

Our life here in the uk is a mixture of both cultures. I dont know which dominates, probably the Iranian, and especialy the Iranian at home. But the choice is there if we want it ... it wont be in Iran. I dont kid myself about that. Theres going to be a few changes I'll have to prepare myself for.

The other problem I contemplate is the mother in law! Seriously guys from what Ive heard, shes hard work and it looks like our turn to look after her. I have heard some horror stories from my sister in law. Hows that going to work?

So guys any advise, other than dont go back?


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You'll be fine

by Bahareh (not verified) on

Javaneh jan,

My family left Iran when I was about 5 years ago. In the past 25 years, I've only been back twice (once 10 years ago and once earlier this year. I already have my ticket for next year). As for being able to adjust in Iran...well I think one can adjust any where (you may not like it at the beginning but eventually we all get used to it). Keep an open mind and just remember since you have dual citizenship, it will be easier for you to come back should you decide you can't stand it there.

As for your "madar shohar"...I think even the greatest ones tend to do or say hurtful things at times - daste khodeshoon ke nist (or so I keep telling myself at times when I just want to say something back to my "madar shohar").

My advice is to keep an open mind, don't try to compare the UK to Iran when you are there because this will make it harder. As my mom always says some persian zarbol masalan....agar nakhahi rosava shavi ham range jamA'at bash (or something along those lines).

As for your "madar shohar" ... good luck azizam, khoda behet sabro hosele bedeh. Oh!!! Try to live as far away from her as you can!

ebi amirhosseini

Javane jaan

by ebi amirhosseini on

1- I haven't forgotten it !!!.

2-Please read or re-read Mirage by Somerset Maugham.


bajenaghe naghi

javaneh jan

by bajenaghe naghi on

i am not sure if you are iranian or not. if not it is going to be a little harder for you to adjust. not that you are old or anything scary like that but it is always more difficult to adjust when one has had a few more birthdays than say twenty five. if you are a iranian then the difficulty is going to be less. but my advice is go and try it for six to twelve months and see how you feel about the whole thing. if everything is good, then come back and sell and makes things final. i know you will love it in iran specially if you have lots of friends and family. as for mother in law, i will say nothing because i have been told that they hear everything people say about them so i say nothing and just  wait to hear from you in your future blogs. 


Tough decision

by farokh2000 on

This is going to be a tough decision for you and your family.

I have been living outside Iran since 1976 and a few times that I have gone back visiting, I have felt  a little confused. Did I belong or not, could I live there again or not, considering everything.

I love Iran and would love to go back at some point and try to stay for a long period and see how it goes. Nothing replaces your Monther land, no matter how long you have been away from it.

Here in U.S., even though my main family is here and I have grown kids, at times I feel like I don't belong.

It feels like " As inja moondeh, as oonja roondeh". It is a little awkward feeling that I am sure most people living outside their Mother land feel.

I am happy for you and your decision and wish you the best.