bajenaghe naghi

bajenagh naghi jan

I love helping folks come up with pieces to their existential puzzles. One way is to listen to their stories the way they prefer it to be heard. Take the fellow who would rather introduce himself to you as a civil servant, I could chat with him, if he chooses to, about the meanings associated with being a cabbie or a civil servant, ad nauseum until the fellow yells out: OK OK WHATEVER I WAS BACK THEN IS NOT IMPORTANT TO ME ANYMORE, IT'S ME WHO COUNTS HERE AND NOW! AND I'M JUST FINE THE WAY I AM! (basseh digeh velam kon...)

Thank you for sharing your encounters.

monda jan

you are in a noble profession. it must be so gratifying to be able to help someone see the correct way out of a problem or untie the knotted thoughts of a confused mind. 

sorry for my confusing sentence

I used to enjoy listening to customers' life stories so much that I decided to go back to school to study psychology. Now I get to hear their stories as my full time job.

monda jan

your last sentence lighted my heart. merci you are a very kind person. i write what is in my heart. i must say that i may change things a little but the main points come from my heart. i have read and read your second sentence and i am a little confused about the customers that you went to school to hear more. 

goudarz jan

i can see from what you write you are a very nice and kind person. please stay that way it suites you very much. i have a little convenient store in omaha nebraska. i sell all types of sweets and chocolates beer and wine and things like that just like the things that 7-11 sells. but i close at 10 in the night. 

Dear bajenaghe naghi

agha bazaar began. They find safety in your presence so they share with you their lost dreams and fantasies. I enjoyed listening to customers' life stories so much that I went back to school so I could listen to them full time. 

I really like reading your blogs.

bajenaghe naghi jan

I am wondering what kind of store do you own and what do you provide. I believe you have achieved more than you credit yourself for.

faramarz jan

Thank you for noticing the heading. you are very right. this was what marlon brando said in on the water front. 

در بار انداز

Thanks for your thoughtful posting BN. The phrase "I could have been somebody" is such a powerful expression of hope and despair, and has a deep root in the American culture. It is from Marlon Brando's character "On The Waterfront". Please don't let a bunch of Iranian "Besaaz Befroosh" and "Taazeh beh Doraan Resideh" mis-use it!

//www.youtube.com/watch?v=l0waNRaz6wU

i have a crush on alex trebeck jan

thank you for being so kind. 

I just want to say something about your blogs in general

They are very unique and sometimes a little strange, but that's why I enjoy them. These anecdotes are totally what this site needs more of. I can't believe you undressed for a PhD History. That's classic. It's like Little Britain or something.... not sure if you've seen that show. Anyway. You're a nice guy it seems. Thanks again BN Jan.

cool philosophers

thanks to all including majid jan and arash jan and mehbod jan and ebi jan (again) for your cool adivse to be less tight and relax and just listen to people and let go. good advise and way of life. change over night is not easy but i will try to slowly change.

BN jan

Majid has a good point, let's not to be too critical of others. As you know we are getting old and a little fantasizing here and there is harmless.
Speaking of Maryam, Is she back or still mad at you and away?

Majid jaan,

Thanks for your support,BN aziz ke rezaayat nemideh,shaayed be khaater taar seebeele daash Majid kootaah biyad!.

You see,from now on I can't go around and Poz Bedam ke, I'm a proffesional blogger on a well known,multi language,culturally diversed & internationally recognized site!.

Shabe jome maa ke hamishe  soot o koor & pizoori bood,een ghosse ham behesh ezaafe shod!.

Az dast een doostaaye baamarefat.

Re:irandokht jan

Aziz nakone ye vaght az hole halim too dig biyofti !.Be careful & take good care of what God has put in front of you.It is priceless!.

p.s.

Irandokht jaan,you said it dear.

Unknown, but content poet

نه بر اشتری سوارم

نه چو خر به زیر بارم

نه خداوند رعیت

نه غلام شهریارم

چه اشکالی داره ؟

اگه یکی‌ دلش به این خوشه خب بذار باشه، یکی‌ سلاخه، روش نمی‌شه،  میگه من کمپانی لوازم یدکی گوسفند دارم، یکی‌ از بیکاری خیابون گرده و سیگاری، میگه من دو تا پست مهم  تو شهرداری و دخانیات دارم، نفتی‌ محل میگه بدون من کار شرکت نفت پیش نمیرفت، تمام گروهبان قند علی‌‌ها مون درجات عقب مونده سی‌ سال گذشته رو حساب کردند و شدند ارتشبد، حالا محض "تفریح" پیتزا دلیوری میکنند، پیش خدمت‌های وزارت کشور  رو که دیگه نگو، با شاه تخته نرد میزدن، و سر هویدا فریاد ! یه بابا یی به صدام گرا میداده برای بمبارون ایران حالا میگه ...منم.... رئیس جمهور "منتخب" !

چیکارشون داری، بذار حال کنن و خیال کنن بقیه مردم کبلا یی چقندرن !

بخیل نباش دوست من.

irandokht jan

i am glad you find my answers inter taining. well irandokht jan what can i say i am iranian and sarfe joo and want to take advantage of oportunities that god puts in front me.

ebi jan

thank you ostad. i always learn something new from your postings and answers. you are a good person to know. 

Ebi jan

I think the guy got his lesson right after BN took off his pants ;-)

He will never just say he's a doctor to another Iranian without health insurance :0)

BN jan thanks for the fun answers! 

IRANdokht

Bajenaghe AZIZ !!!

Shomaa be bozorgitoon bebakhshid,ghalat kard,dige nemigeh " cilvil servant".

Baabaa as I said donot forget the power of Euphemism:

"Euphemisms are common in job titles; some jobs have complicated titles that make them sound more impressive than the common names would imply. Many of these euphemisms may include words such as engineer, though in fact the people who do the job are not accredited in engineering. Extreme cases, such as sanitation engineer for janitor, or 'transparent-wall maintenance officer' for window cleaner, are cited humorously more often than they are used seriously. Another example is Henny Youngman's joke that his brother-in-law claimed to be a "diamond cutter" - his job was to mow the lawn at Yankee Stadium. Less extreme cases, such as custodian for janitor or administrative assistant for secretary, are considered more terms of respect than euphemisms."

ali jan

what you say makes a lot of sense to me. it all boils down if you are happy and satisfied with what you do and you also value what you offer to the people you serve. all work is honerable and valuable. and every one who spend his or her time working must be respected no matter what type work they do.

Maybe it is us...

BN jaan:

 I don't know why a London cabbie, would lie about his job, and if he does, why not might as well go all the way, and become a 'surgeon',or a "Supreme Court judge" and just settle for a 'civil servant' position?

Anyway.

 I have seen this 'image' thing, and the pressure to preserve it, more in the East, than in the West. 

  I used to live in Germany. I never heard them sugarcoat their professions. My teenage friends would tell me, with much enthusiasm,  they plan to become hairdressers, or older people would say, proudly, their son is a butcher.

  Maybe part of it, is that  a German hairdresser, or butcher, enjoys a great amount of respect extended to them, by the German society.

  After all, they each need to take many classes, study hard, and pass all kinds of exams, to be qualified to practice their respective profession, whereas their counterparts in Iran, or even in the US, do not have to go through this. 

i have a crush on alex trebeck jan

people say the craziest things. the other day this guy walked in and said he was a doctor. so i took everything off except my shorts and asked him to examine me. he started laughing and told me he was a doctor in history. i really got to shy and went red in my face. i told him not say he is a doctor next time and say he is a phd in history. 

bajenaghe naghi!!!

Those lies are nothing! I've heard much worse!"big fortunes" turn out to be gambling debts and "separated" turns into "married." people are so bad!

ebi jan

not only your story bring smile to my face it made me laugh aloud. 

Bajenaghe Aziz !

Never understimate the power of Euphemism !!.

I bet you've heard this before:

1st person: my son has a phd from USA.

2nd person: that's nothing,my son has a BMW from Germany.

sepaas

They don't bring a smile to

They don't bring a smile to your face? Come on, it is ok. Esmile!

kablammad jan

i guess as long as it bring smile to their faces when they lie it is ok. if they are happy then i am happy to. i am always happy kablammad jan. as long as i am alive and i can see my maryam's face i am happy to. 

Why lie? Why ask why?! Do

Why lie? Why ask why?! Do they bother you when they lie? They are chatting with you. You never lied to them about how you owned so many things back during Shah?! Anyway, it is ok to have white lies. It brings a smile to your face and what could be better than that?