Thoughts in a Hijab

"My cultural and personal identity"

YouTube intro: "This youth-produced film tells the story of a young woman who recently moved to the US from Iran, and her decision to continue wearing the hijab although no longer forced to do so."


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This guy is the enforcer of Hijab

by Anonymouss (not verified) on


she keeps the arab spirit alive,

by nanaz (not verified) on

who despie iranian deeply, and look at them as their slave, shame , when you going to wake up .

Beside,in this video, she doesnot cover all her hair, what is the point of putting on , i have seen many other girls who cover their hair, and then wear tight jean, like what kind of hejab is supposed to be.


What a load of crap

by Faramarz_Fateh on

Hijab is the emblem of hypocracy as well as stupidity.

Women in Iran and many other Islamic countries are either taught (brain washed from childhood) or forced to wear hijab because horney men can't contain themselves and their horniness.

Instead of putting chastity belts on men or teaching men not to look at women as sex objects, we (actually Islam) forces women to take action by wearing hijab.  What a load of crap.

Majority (obviously not all) of women who wear hijab are 10x worse than women who take pride in being a woman and dress normally when it comes to morality.

There!  I got this out of my chest


Wake up....

by Anoyed (not verified) on

When will Iranians wake up and identify with their own Iranian roots, rather than with Arabs thru their imposed religion Islam.


Covering head with a

by maz2 (not verified) on

Covering head with a colorful head cover has been a part of our culture, as has been throgh India and china, et.. ( observe the traditional dressing of these people.). covering as a relegious mandate has been widely enforced in west by christianity (look at nuns, see the symbolic picture of Mary...etc). On the other hand, Not wearing anything on head is very new phenomenon, modernized way of life and more comfortable. So Hejab although the word is arabic, but has been universal. Currently muslims are still more attached to their relegious than , lets say christians. although if you travel to more traditional remote christian community like in Russia, poland, middel East, they still cover themselves.

Dear Sahar, be yourself, and wear (or not wear) what you prefer, and be proud of who you are.


Same experience as Azarin

by AS (not verified) on

I have a similar experience with a "hejabi" girl. She is one of the many girlfriend of my friend. She is from a shahrestan (Imam Reza's home city)and was a hejabi when she arrived but then removed the hejab after a few years. It is amazing to me what a slut this girl was under the veil and now. She came to the US to do her PHD at UCLA. She had an American boyfriend who she spent weekends with at his house within months of her arrival. She had the reputation of a party girl amongst the American guys who found her veil and services exotic.

You should hear the sexual acts this girl does with my friend. She has no boundries and act in a way no other Iranian girl of my generation who were raised in the US did/do. This girl is merely aggressive seeking pleasure and money. She has no values or morals. It's all talk. To you guys out there, like my friend take these hejabi girls for a ride. They are sluty, loose and available.



by EDS on

Good comment and I agree with you.  I had not read yours when I posted mine.



by EDS on

It is an accurate picture of what her choice means.

It is without a doubt a question of cultural identity.  While for many Iranians hejab is clearly un-Iranian, for man, especially those who have grown up under the Islamic Republic it most certainly is.  You may not like it but it is true.

Regardless, finding your identity in your culture is a trip into darkness and unhappiness. This may be especially hard to come to terms with for people on ""  It is better to find identity in truth in one's values that he deems to be truthful and just. 

All you have to do is consider the heartache this girl has gone and will continue to go through.  Why?  Because culture is not necessary true or just nor important enough that one should sacrifice his life for.  In such a case, instead of being a source of joy and sharing it becomes a source of pain, darkness and heartache.



by Anonymous999 (not verified) on

hijab has nothing to do with our persian culture and identity. She should go backand live in Iran. These peolpe don't belong to west. Just like when european go to Iran and they have to wear hijab. The muslems that are thousands years backward should loose their hijab too and follow western society.

These idiots belong to IRI and should stay there. Wired, it;s just wired. Go back and wear as much as hijab that you want and for god'sake do something about your accent.

Halam baham khord, boogando.


I like those moslem girls

by Anonypishi (not verified) on

I see in the shopping malls. Covering all their hair but wearing the tight jeans. Two round watermelons stick out. Moving from left to right, right to left.
mashregh maghreb, maghreb mashregh

Why bother?


Agree with Nader/Identity Crisis

by t (not verified) on

The more I think about her, the more clear it becomes that she is having identity crisis.

She doesn't know who the hell she is and what she wants to be. Tight jeans, loose hejab, a "shahrestani" of a religious, fanatic, conservative family in the US. She is lost. She would be lost in Tehran let alone in the US.

BTW, what is she and her family doing in the US, the land of the Satan and corruption. They brought the IRI into power, they should stay in Iran under their beloved akhoonds and Ahmadinezad. If it is to acquire an education, she could have had that in Iran. Her family must be an agent of the IRI and this is all propoganda.

F_ _ _ her. I'm sure some American boyfriend of hers will soon and then we'll see the hejab a bit more tightened so to show that she is a "dast nakhordeh" but yet a k_r khordeh!

Azarin Sadegh

Just avoid her like pest!

by Azarin Sadegh on

There is one like this one in my workplace (she's an intern).Her cube is very close to me and the first days (when she wasn’t still aware of my existence) i was very surprised by the kind of private conversations she had with someone in Farsi (pretty erotic!) I realized that she dies to remove that thing, but is afraid of her father..:)) But then I heard her talking about her faith talking with an American coworker! 

So now, I just avoid her like pest! I just ignore her if I cross her in the hallways, as if she doesn't even exist! I have never been fond of hypocrites.

But I am not surprised at all: These people come to America and display their veil and faith, etc to claim their freedom of religion and enjoy the existing human rights in the west, but these same people, in Iran, deny these same rights under the excuse of religion.



Representing Your Culture

by Iranian-American (not verified) on

Why do you assume the culture that you are representing is valuable? For instance ,it is part of Arab's culture to eat food with their hands. But does that mean that when they live in the United States they should eat with their hands because they want to represent their culture??!


Sorry, but head covering might be in our culture

by Half-and-Half (not verified) on

1. Hold your horses everybody! Don't go attacking me now. I hate the hejab, but there is something you need to know.


A head covering in the form of a short chador was a part of the traditional Iranian costume prior to Islam. While Islam has the concept of "hejab," it doesn't explicitly suggest the concept of a "chador." In fact chador, which is a form of Islamized head covering of Zoroastrian women, is a gift from Iranians to other parts of the world!

Please don't get mad! Just look here, at pictures of Zoroastrian women of Yazd in their traditional costumes and head coverings. This is not a new item of clothing for them. nor is it the standard "forced" hejab of IRI. This is thousdands of years older than Islam or Islamic Republic, I promise!


and for more pictures of Zoroastrian women of Yazd in their head covering:


2. I think this girl and her mother are forced to wear the hejab while the mother is on a scholarship from Iranian government. That's why they are both wearing it. If they really believed in hejab, they would observe it fully, not like this.


Whatever makes you happy

by Erooni (not verified) on

If wearing the Hejab make her happy and she is comfortable wearing it she should wear it,but if she feels that she has to answer too many questions and Hejab makes her stand out and she feels uncomfortable she should not wear it unless she is forced to wear he Hejab.



by ThePope on

The veil (hejaab) has absolutely nothing to do with our culture, however, the I.R. has made a cultural thing out of hejaab, and they are sending "agents" like sahar & her family to spread this concept worldwide.

The use of hejaab in public is only a matter of serious mental illness with a bad negative effect on society. Actually, it can have a H U G E psychic toll on the citizens of any community regardless of age, culture, ethnic background and even religion. As an example; Iran's society since the stupid revolution (ex: men in Iran have become perverts after the islamic revolution). There's no such thing as security for someone who wears a veil, but quite the contrary. And there's no such thing as nejaabat if one is wearing hejaab. A stupid scarf or chaador doesn't make anyone najib. One 's not considered najib with false modesty (veil) or hypocrisy (veil) because real nejaabat is in the heart and it comes frome one's innermost...

The veil is only for inside the "house of God" (Synagogues, churches, mosques...) where believers gather to pray and praise God. And the reason is not to distract others while they are praying and it allows believers to remain focused while worshiping/praying...



is right

by hajiagha on

is freedom, and she have right to choice she like to do? so simple .

If gay are free  why not they are? also I like3 a women with he jab better as those naked and have ugly tattoos



With all due respect to her...

by Nader on

The more I think about this, the more I am convinced that this is a case of Identity Crisis!

People who use paradox philosophy at every turn to relate this to our culture are way off mark.  When did this become part of our "culture"?

Was it like this before Islam?

Now, Norooz is "culture". Roosari is not!


Well maybe if she dressed

by Dino (not verified) on

Well maybe if she dressed like your aylar Lie, she would have been more in tune with great persian culture. You have to excuse the Arabs for bringing modesty to Iranian woman, after all that is not the Iranian thing. BTW, alot of people are telling me that during Sasanaid Empire persian woman actually used to cover their hair, I might be wrong, knowing the pesian people that I know today.


chak too goosh

by Another lost iranian in France (not verified) on

I can't even talk to that kinda people. So much ignorance makes me agressive, now call it what you want to, but I just wanna slap her.


Good for you! Keep your culture

by samsam1111 on


& marry another seyed and name your kids Al kolsum,Al Roghieh,Al zeinab & Al nasrollah & teach them our Iranian identity on how to worship seyeds instead of God.. be happy in your  Iranic Wonderland!.. Cyrus will be proud!

Marhaba al nesaa



by Not Anonymous (not verified) on

Correction: It should read:

Khomeini promised Iranian women that Hejab will NOT be mandatory/compulsory.


In 1980 wearing Hejab was

by Not Anonymous (not verified) on

In 1980 wearing Hejab was forced

by the Islamic Republic.

The operative word is FORCED here. Doesn't she question how this "idenity" or "culture" of hers had to be FORCED if it was truly an organic part of her "culture"...

Does she know about Her culture before the revolution and how thousands of Iranians women protested against Hejab in the streets of Iran? Does she know that Ayatollah Khoemini promised to IRanian women that "Hejab will be mandatory/compulsory" to calm them down.

She is has a lot to learn about her culture. Culture of Iran did not start in 1978...


" تهاجم فرهنگی اعراب "

بی حجاب (not verified)

فرهنگ ? این مسیله حجاب " تهاجم فرهنگی اعراب " به ایران است خانم عزیز. مثل اینکه یه خانم از مالزی که پرچم پیروزی اسلام رو رو سرش میگذاره بگه این فرهنگ مالزی هست . من به عنوان یک خانم حجاب ندارم چون میخوام راحتتر زندگی کنم. اگر شما فرهنگ و راه و روش اعراب رو انتخاب کرده اید این را به حساب فرهنگ ایرانی نگذارید . و لطفا اطلاعات اشتباهی به مردم ندهید . لااقل خیلی ها میدوند که این فرهنگ بر اثر استیلای اعراب یکبار در گذشته, یکبار هم الان به زنهای ایرانی تحمیل شده .


Why is she here in the US??

by anti-propaganda (not verified) on

Why is she here in the US?? To make propagnda film for the Islamic Republic in order to show Iranians as Islamists not Iranian.

You're representing the Islamic Republic's culture and identity that you've been indoctrinated with. I bet you don't have a clue what Iranian culture is. How could you know having been bombarded by Islamic Republic revisionist history and distortion of Iranian identity.

Who is her father in Iran??


Girls who wear hejab on

by water (not verified) on

Girls who wear hejab on university campuses are head turners and very popular. They attract more attention than those with a mini skirts. They are exotic with their hejab and many guys find it very attractive and mysterious. They are also very flirtatious...

Some of the outfits and makeup with the Hejab makes them look like models on the runway and I think they like the attention they get.


Cultural Identity?, please!

by farokh2000 on

Who said Chador or other forms of hejab are Iranian cultural identities.

Juts like Islam, that garbage comes from Arabs as well and has been imposed on Iranians since their invasion of Iran.

On the other hand, wearing what you feel comfortable is a personal choice.

If she chooses to wear that stuff, good for her and people should respect that but don't stick the Cultural Identity label to it, please.


her hejab

by IRANdokht on

As long as her hejab is a personal choice that she makes, there is nothing wrong with it.

I disagree with people who say it's not part of her culture: she was born in Iran after the revolution and her mother also wears a loose hejab like hers. It's all she's comfortable wearing. She's never experienced living in Iran without having to cover her hair. It is her culture and all she knows and feels comfortable with.

The head cover is part of her life. The islamic Hejab the way it's being reinforced is not part of Iranian traditions and culture but if you look at some folks dresses around Iran you will see a head cover of some sort, that look like hers.

Wearing Hejab like that she could actually be stopped by khaharaneh zeynab in Tehran and asked to fix her hejab, she's choosing bright colors and she looks great. She should try the alternative and see if she can feel comfortable without it too, just as an option she never experienced before. But to wear it or take it off just based on what others say or think of her, (or despite it) is not the right attitude she should have.

good luck to her



It's absolutely her choice to wear the scarf or not, however,

by Nader on

However, this is NOT part of our culture. (Unless you are an Arab)!

She is beautiful, intelligent and has every right to do what she like to do. But PLEASE, do not count this as part of our culture. We inherit this during the 2nd Arab invasion!



by Nader on