Wishing Us a Better 2011 (post menopausal rage)

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Wishing Us a Better 2011 (post menopausal rage)
by Monda
24-Dec-2010
 

So, one day, two days ago I left my funniest comment for Faramarz on his Manwich blog, which I immediately noticed deleted/ missing/ not there, whatever... I got so Pissed* that instantly experienced all the following emotions:

1. WTF?! I spent 3 mins typing that comment (leading to #2)

2. Doesn't JJ have any RESPECT for MY Time?! (at this point I was fuming, ooooh, totally sent to my fight or flight center of my brain, otherwise known as dyno-brain/ limbic system),.... calmed that one down a bit, but then reaction #3 occured

3. Full-blown Narcissistic Wound/ RAGE in Action - WHO Does He/ JJ think HE IS?!! How Dare He (JJ)??!! After being the biggest fan of his site for all those years (probably even added My Life at the end of that sentence)?... I even thought him a Friend?... yada yada yada...

4. Mr. JJ, Deactive Me from your site!,... kinda sounded like "give me back all my photos, memories of my relationship with iranian.com, rambled on and on... (btw all this happened with sound off at home 'cause I was sick with a flu from hell, and my daughter was still asleep, otherwise she'd point out my nonsense outrage). Let's just say, the poor thing has experienced "it" first-hand,... sometimes reminding me Not to apologize for my anger, "you are entitled to your anger mama, you keep things inside incredibly too long"... She knows. She's 18 but wise beyond her age. She's studying journalism.

Speaking of which, back to poor innocent (?) JJ:

5. Is This what HE calls Free Speech???!!! What if I wish to express a genuine bonding moment with another reader (Faramarz that was), should I be censored because I am a) a Woman? b) middle-aged? c) at this point I was too angry to make any Sense... so c could've been, I didn't cook the food he liked at Nazy's party?!

There were also #'s 6, 7, and 8... but currently do not wish to relive the trauma any longer than I should. Simply put, I do not react well to Anger. I get instant intense headache, followed with throwing up sometimes, I get uncontrollable shiver and chills especially in my extremities (my iranian.com cup fell out of my numb hand, my ringing cell phone dropped on the floor, twice, then I get into hot big drops of tears.... I Said don't wish to relive the trauma, but Cannot Pretend those never happened either.

What does all this have to do with my wish for 2011 - you May at this point ask?

I declare: 2010 was the Worst year of my life! (besides 1979, of course). Where Frustrations accumulated daily, when images became more deadly and dialogues turned the most desperately confusing and meaningless. So many Substantial moves affected my personal life as badly. At times it felt like experiencing a parallel universe. Events inside Iran, the World, never felt so closely associative and transfered into my personal life. Enough said.

I wish us All to have one Better 2011 - with many Positive, Heartwarming Resolutions. Inside and outside of ourselves. But mostly inside, that is where it all begins. Michael Jackson sang it in "The Man in the Mirror", ages after Molana and Khayyam delighted us with the big Wisdom... and as Zohreh Ghahremani mentioned a "portable spiritual place" in one of her articles,... I hope we all find our near-perfect place of serenity in our minds and hearts. Where we can voluntarily tap into trust, joy, warmth and love... Then take it with us, no matter were we go in life...

One place I am taking mine, is Argentina and a U2 concert :o)

yeah yeah jj, i will blog that one, even if it won't come anywhere close to yours or others on your Wonderfully Liberating site. Also, JJ Jan, (your travel requirements - allowing) Would you please add a nice peaceful photo for this blog, if you do feature it and IF you're not totally rightfully turned off by my rants of the other day? :D

* in real life, i could show those symptoms oh about dozen times, but way more in 2010.

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Monda

Thanks OKtaby!

by Monda on Fri Dec 24, 2010 05:21 PM PST

I'm not sure about the allusive roll!? You have a Better 2011 yourself.


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Monda

Azadeh Azizdel

by Monda on Fri Dec 24, 2010 05:18 PM PST

I am so Happy to have made Your Day! Sincerely, I was quite Sober while writing this blog (cough syrup was It) but your recommendation is a Fun one! Even though the poet said: 

kesheedan key bovad maandand e didan?!

 

 


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Faramarz

Banana-Shaped Breasts! Yuck!

by Faramarz on Fri Dec 24, 2010 04:42 PM PST

Monda,

Now I see what the problem is, seriously!

I guess that you are used to drinking champagne out of a flute glass, so you thought that I was impressed by the banana-shaped breasts! (oh please, spare me dear lord!) But what I was referring to was an old-fashioned champagne glass!

I am glad that JJ caught that in time and deleted the comment!

//elitechoice.org/2008/06/20/400000-diamond-c...


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oktaby

(:)

by oktaby on Fri Dec 24, 2010 04:40 PM PST

Fun read. Keep writing while on a roll.

UDC (unidentified disappearing comment), the most glaring inconsistency of IC.... can be shot, stabbed, explained, burned, maimed, free speeched... but not killed. Perhaps in the new year, jj will resolve to solve.

Good riddance 2010. Have a great 2011 Monda and all

OKtaby


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Azadeh Azad

LOL!!!

by Azadeh Azad on Fri Dec 24, 2010 03:41 PM PST

You made my day, Monda jaan. I sooo identify and empathize with you. Why don't you go to this Canadian website whenever your comments are lost and have a cyber puff at the Magic Dragon :-) Your immediate happiness is guaranteed.

//www.marijuanaparty.ca/

Happy New Year to you and your loved ones,

Azadeh 

 


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Monda

Azizanam

by Monda on Fri Dec 24, 2010 02:56 PM PST

JJ aziz, need to verify your explanation by revisiting Faramarz's blog, since I had immediately replied to my own reply. Hate to distract you from your holiday plans but i'm afraid there might be some other glitch involved in disappearing comments. Honestly, it was not the first time I had noticed my comment missing. Those other (2) times, I was being more of my carefree self, so let it go.

And JJ, Thank You for allowing me to speak here so comfortably. My close friends know what severe case of laalbooni I suffered for ages, prior to my discovering your IC.

Faramarz, my comment was this "if you like banana-shaped breats, begoo va raahatemoon kon... we'd still love you and your writing"... or something like that. So you know, We lose our memories for detail with age, but recall the gist of thoughts and feelings : ))   And you are one of the Funnest reasons for visiting iranian.com. Many times You have provided me with the arduous task of translating for my daughter what it was like, for me too, to grow up in Iran. I could have never been so clear and articulate without your help, about my memories and creative reproduction of our young stages.

maryam joonam, I am an expert at keeping things quiet, you Know that!... So, too delam fohsh midam. That's why in all the 40 years you've known me, you may have heard my badmouthing only occasionally in sync with yours. Outwardly, my preferred fohsh is Avazee, because plenty nasty words are pre-assigned to it.

Shazdeh jan, I Always Delight in reading Your blogs, If I can understand them that is... Some just go way past my level of education and understanding. Also, just a few minutes ago as I was listening and watching O'Connor, I got slightly teary-eyed because of her touching voice and her gorgeous face. In the midst of which I considered writing another "If i was a Man" blog. She ain't no Raissadat, but she's most beautiful in expression of her emotions. Bit unstable in real life if you ask me... but just need to remind myself to blog about her. Happy Holidays dear!

 


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Shazde Asdola Mirza

Yup, Faramarz is a bad boy - avoid his blogs dear, come to mine!

by Shazde Asdola Mirza on Fri Dec 24, 2010 01:36 PM PST

Best wishes for 2010 and your upcoming trips ... you are one of the "Most Loved" members of IC.

This one is for you dear Monda,

//www.youtube.com/watch?v=2shR99NnwCA


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Faramarz

این دفعه تقصیر فرامرز نبود!

Faramarz
Fri Dec 24, 2010 01:26 PM PST

I dodged another bullet!

Welcome Back Monda!

You are the M in Iranian.coM!


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sima

Ha ha ha!!!

by sima on Fri Dec 24, 2010 12:34 PM PST

Good blog, Monda joon. I know exactly how you're feeling.

GREAT picture!!!

And why did JJ delete your comment?! I've never seen you say anything inappropriate or disrespectful. What happened? (Sorry, one becomes curious!)


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Jahanshah Javid

Bandeh ghalat konam

by Jahanshah Javid on Fri Dec 24, 2010 12:34 PM PST

There never has and never will be an instance that I would delete a comment by you. There's absolutely no reason. You never use profanity, never attack anyone, always cordial.

The only way your comment would be deleted is when you click on the reply button when leaving a comment. In these cases your email will be attached to the one you replied to. And if the original comment is deleted because of profanity or personal attacks, your attached reply/comment will be deleted too by the publishing system. It just how it works. We can't control that.

In any case, I understand you were frustrated. I would be too.

Have a wonderful 2011 my friend. And thank you for being here and spreading joy.


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Monda

Wow Azarin jaan, what a compliment!

by Monda on Fri Dec 24, 2010 12:03 PM PST

Coming from You! So glad you liked this blog. I'm going to sauna to get some relief from this sinus congestion... having the worst flu ever! hopefully gone before tomorrow. 


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Monda

not close Ostaad jaan :o)

by Monda on Fri Dec 24, 2010 11:58 AM PST

glad you got my drift! A lover of my old house-mate, Maryam, had posted that plant with Maryam S's most beautiful hand-made ornaments. She used to make those when we shared our home in SF years ago.

To clarify, my real tree is unfortunately a regular silver needle pine with some of those ornaments :o)


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Azarin Sadegh

Happy New Year, Monda jan!

by Azarin Sadegh on Fri Dec 24, 2010 11:48 AM PST

Your best blog, Monda jan! I think we do have many things in common...:-)

I wish you too a better 2011...and I'm sure there is a pretty good chance for any year to be better than 2010..:-)


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ebi amirhosseini

Monda Jaan

by ebi amirhosseini on Fri Dec 24, 2010 11:43 AM PST

 Priceless.

Now I get what you meant by "off" in your email!!.

ba' een blog hesa'bi takhliyeh rava'ni kardi ha'. lol

Happy Holidays

sepaas

Ebi aka Haaji


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