When men are not wanted but refuse to accept it.

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When men are not wanted but refuse to accept it.
by The Prince
12-May-2011
 

I was having a cup of coffee with a friend of mine this afternoon. He is a nice guy who unfortunately is going through a divorce. After a long time of separation, he still has feelings for his wife. His problem is that he has had such a difficult time letting her go. Despite all his wife’s effort to let him know that she does not want him anymore, he is still having a hard time hearing the clear message and accepting it. So I asked him: “what else do you want her to do? Shove a grenade up your ass for you to get it?!”

We talked a bit more and then we parted. I came home and wrote this. It is, sort of, his story.

When you look into her beauty with all your heart, caressing her hair. She gives a look back at you and says: “you’re a Jackass”.

You’re not wanted.

What else do you want her to do? Shove a grenade up your ass?

When you look for a kiss but all you get is a story of how others made a pass.

You’re not wanted.

What else do you want her to do? Shove a grenade up your ass?

When she calls you all the names in the book, rips your shirt and breaks your eyeglass.

You’re not wanted.

What else do you want her to do? Shove a grenade up your ass?

When she yells: “Hey mother fucker”, as your name, with zeal and hate all amass.

You’re not wanted.

What else do you want her to do? Shove a grenade up your ass?

When your presence makes her embarrass, but when you leave she is disembarrass.

You’re not wanted.

What else do you want her to do? Shove a grenade up your ass?

When she is polite, courteous, or even nice, but you know, to her, you are nothing but frass.

You’re not wanted.

What else do you want her to do? Shove a grenade up your ass?

When you’re only a tool and not a man, treated like a piece of wood or even fiberglass.

You’re not wanted.

What else do you want her to do? Shove a grenade up your ass?

When will you learn? Today? Tomorrow?

When is the right time to let go and let this all pass?

I pray it is before the grenade explodes inside your ass….

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This is not vulgar poem about him. I am sorry that you see it that way. My freind doesn't. This is an attempt to help. My freind actually appreciates this. He feels it is as if her wrote it himself! Trust me on this. 

I agree that you have to deal with rejection and it takes time and it hurts. But accepting the fact that you have been rejected is the first step. If you keep going back for more rejection, it is not healthy. At some point you gotta stop. What does it take for any of us to stop? Hopefully not a grenade.

 

  

 


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Perhaps it is your lack of sensitivity that strikes. Would your time and loyalties as a "friend" be better served by finding how to support your friend and give good advice, than to write vulgar poem about him? All you have to do is google the net and it will  give a few hints.

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I never though I would live to see the day that I actually wirte these two words: " Dear Shepesh", and actually be talking to a real person!!! Anyhow....

Thank you for your heartfelt comments.  You might've read this wrong. "Shove a grenade up your ass" is not actually a suggesstion here. It is more like a wake up call, if you will.... He is having trouble accepting that she does not want him..

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True! He may ver well deserve it. But that is not the point here.

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"When you look into her beauty with all your heart, caressing her hair. She gives a look back at you and says: “you’re a Jackass”.

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