In memory of my high school friends


In memory of my high school friends
by Bavafa

Today, Molly and I went to the Sierra for a short hike and some father-daughter bonding.  It was a beautiful CA winter day where the streams are frozen over yet you can hike with only a T-shirt and not get cold.  Going to the mountains has always brought me a sense of joy and freedom.  In the mountains I am relaxed, happy and peaceful.  It is also a place where I can think more clear, be in touch with feelings and reflect on my life better.  Today was no exception and as we started the hike, I was thinking about my life and how different it could have been had I stayed in Iran.  I was thinking and remembering my good high school friends and that faithful morning when six of us packed in a car and headed to sign up for service.   We had been friends and in the same classroom for the past four years, all of the same age and as naïve and innocent as any bache shahrestani could get.  The war had just began, a sort of 9/11 for Iranians and we were clueless as what awaits us, yet eager to defend our mother land.   Well, three of those six were lucky to finish the service and make it back home, two of those three were lucky to have opportunity to leave Iran and make a life outside in a new adopted land. Today  I was reflecting on my own life and how good I have it, specially compare to those who remained in Iran.  A life, free to choose your own path, free to express your thoughts,  with the greatest partner (my wife) that I could have never imagined better or kinder, four kids who keep us busy yet bring us much joy, a job that enable us to have a comfortable life.  And then I was thinking how much I wished my friends back home could have a bit of this life, the comfort and freedom.

In the memoreis of those great friends

P.S. Molly, a mixed German Shepherd is our newly adopted daughter.  She is about a year to a year and half and a well behaved, much loved pedar sokhteh.

P.S.S The pic is a winter boating on North Fork American river in late 90s

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Thank You Bavafa.

by comments on

I received my last support word in 2011 from you.  Thank you. 

I thought to extend my previous comment by a luck related word.  Then, I remembered that I don’t believe in bad luck.  Bad luck is for people who have no clue what factors/actions made them less fortunate.  They still blame the chance for their unfortunes. 

Pat your back for all you have become.  I am sure there are many people who wish to be more relaxed, happier and more peaceful when reaching mountains.  Warmest thoughts and every good wish for a wonderful Holiday to you and yours. 

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Dear Monda: I couldn’t agree more….

by Bavafa on

And with that our best wishes to you and your family for a wonderful and happy holiday/new year. 

'Hambastegi' is the main key to victory 



Here's to Hambastegi, Health and strong Connections!

by Monda on

Mehrdad e Bavafa, thank you for your very pleasant share. With all the malicious people and evil intensions abound, we really need people and stories like you and yours.

I wish you and your loved (including Molly) a joyful holiday season and one terrific 2012. 

P.S. Mixed shephards make the best companions. 


Dear friends: Thanks for Reading with some replies

by Bavafa on

I believe the bond that is created with childhood friends is very hard to replicate.  I have many dear and great friends from adulthood, some who I have spent great deal of time in tents and mountains having them hold the other end of rope, sort of my life in their hand, yet it has not been the same as those childhood friends.

Esfand Jaan:  If you ask my dad, he says not my helmet but my head.  That is why it smells like Ghormesabzi and not working :)

Dr. Mohndes:  I am glad you have been able to get in touch with your old buddies. It must have been an interesting and fun reunion.   Your story of leaving Iran brought another memory for me.  When I was preparing to leave, we were short for the airfare and the government rated $500 that you could take with you.  It was all my friends that pitched in to make the difference.  None but one worked at the time and we all relied on our daily allowance (pool to jibi)

Nazi jaan:  Amen to that, unless one experiences the war cannot easily imagine its destructive affect.  I do believe in such thing as war of necessity but have not seen one, perhaps in my life time.  All the wars we have been witnessed have been war of aggression and for greed.  With that I say NO WAR ON IRAN.

Hooshang jaan:  My wife jokes that if it is not life threatening or high risk of injury then I am not interested.  She is wrong, herself is not life threatening and only joyful and I was very interested.  Anyway, never tried canoeing only white water kayaking.  Though many do white water using a canoe but it is too cumbersome and a bit more limiting.  Be safe on the rivers.

Ari jaan:  Glad you enjoyed it and it brought back your own memories.

Dear MM: Comedians often say it more clear than others.  It is funny yet very true about friendship.

Dear Rtayebi1:  Utah is a great State and has lots to offer for outdoor activity.  It was one of my popular destination for ice climbing, mountain biking and skiing.  Little cottonwood canyon is full with very interesting and fun climbs and of course the most and great national parks that is a mecca for any outdoor junkie.

Dear comments:  Thank you for the kind words and glad you see it as it is and take it with its face value.  I appreciate that.


'Hambastegi' is the main key to victory 


Esfand Aashena

Nice picture.

by Esfand Aashena on

Bavafa jaan you see when you have your blog photo in portrait mode or have it longer than wider it comes out better.  Did you hit your helmet in any of the rocks?!

Nice story and rememberance of your friends as well.  I second Nazy jaan's comment in it's entirety.

Everything is sacred

Dr. Mohandes

high school pals...

by Dr. Mohandes on


Thanks B man for the blog.

When i left iran 24 years ago i never even thought i will see my best buddies from HS again, there were us four all the time, Heck i did not even tell them i was taking off... so as not to jinx the whole process... i don't know something like that,

When i got back, the first thing i did was getting back in touch with them and the rest was Heeestoree:)

God bless old friendships. If it were not for one of them in particular i would not have the chance to come here and Keep eeen tuch veet uu guyz...:))

 God bless good Friends and especially who know where to obtain a good VPN to experience the FREEE WORLD, in the virtual sense of the word.


Nazy Kaviani


by Nazy Kaviani on

Thank you for sharing memories of yourself and your friends, Iran's living and fallen heroes. We owe so much to those who defended Iran and to their families. Let's hope there would never be another war, and that no young man is ever sent to a place and a job which would be his last.

I use this opportunity to remind all that bombing a nation is the ultimate violation of that nation's human rights. There is no such thing as a humanitarian military attack on anyone.


The picture of winter boating is very tempting.

by Hooshang Tarreh-Gol on

Ever tried canoeing? We used to go canoeing with old college firendsd, on Delaware River every year. In the month of August, (water was at its lowest), on Mushroom. Those were the days.

Ari Siletz

Touching reminiscence

by Ari Siletz on

Made me remember some old friends too. Thanks.


Indeed, Mehrdad

by MM on

A comedian, jokingly said that starting friendships is like stepping into fresh cement.  The longer you stay in, the bigger/deeper the impression in the cement and harder to get out.

BTW, thank you and friends for your service.


very nice

by rtayebi1 on

Bavafa jaan, I love hiking as well, even though I am bacheh tehrooni, bachah Nazam Abadii to be exact. lol   Utah has some great mountains to hike, the air is crisp and nice.Thanks for sharing.


A blog in an attractive, beautiful and honest manner.

by comments on

A life that allows one to know who he really is, what he really wants, how he accepts the one he has always been, "free to choose his own path, free to express...."

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