Anahid Hojjati

Death of an avatar!

I can only sincerely wish that the real person behind FR's ID is a serial avatar killer, who would be around for years to come.

Never increase, beyond what is necessary, the number of entities required to explain anything.

Dear Mehrban and Farah, and to all readers, thanks

Dear Mehrban, my dad already feels better. Thanks for your comment.

Dear Farah, thanks for calling me gracious and forgiving. I think all of us have our gracious and forgiving times and then there are times that we may not be as gracious. At least, that is the case with me.

Dear readers, when I originally wrote this blog, my goal was to make a point that even though Iran's situation is still terrible but in a matter of couple years or less, it can drastically change just how our personal lives change sometimes quickly. I asked readers to just answer with yes or no about whether there have been significant changes in their lives in recent years. However, this blog took a life of it own. Commentators wrote about their financial and health concerns, their marriages and some other important issues. I thank you all for writing on this thread and by no means, this comment of mine is meant to end discussion. I just want to thank everyone who has commented on this thread so far.

"Death is in sight"?! No way!

Farah Rusta, for you I would not bet on it.  Your sharp wit, keen intellect, and tenatious will have got ways to go.   I just know it and you better believe it too.

Vildemose and COP, sorry to hear about mishaps in your lives, disappointments are often temporary and soon it becomes evident that good things are in store.

Anahid, sorry about your dad's health hope he feels better soon.  

Mehrdad and FR: Love you

Mehrdad and FR: Love you both. I appreciate the generosity of your spirits. I'm blessed to have known you both. Your humanity shines through and it fills me with gratitude.

FR jan: Please let me know if there is anything I can do, without taarof.

BTW, tomorrow is the Global Random Act of Kindness Day.

You can read more about it here:

//www.liquidhip.com/2010/08/random-acts-of-kindness-tend-to-spread.html

Darius mon Cheri

Always a Gentleman, a true Chevallier though and through. Let me say that my love for life still  keeps me going but don't know for how long.

Your love means a lot to me. You are a light of hope in this hopless world and a great son to Iran.

Best

Farah 

Anahid va Merdad Jaan - ghorbaane har doyetaan

Somehow I wished I had not bothered you with my personal issues as I feel so bad when I cause any distress to my good friends like you and many others who have noticed me.  

Anahid jaan you have such a gracious, forgiving and decent personality. I am grateful for your thoughts and good wishes. Thank you for being who you are and truly living up to your name: immaculate.

Mehrdad jaan 

Your words are the best prayers for me. Ghorbaane vafayat. May God bless you and your great soul.

truly

Farah

Farah Jaan I hope you are pulling our legs ? ...

That's Not Funny! ...

Don't tell me you are that ill ? ...

If True So sorry to hear this.

Tons of Love,

DK

My dear Vildemouse

You are so sweet and generous in heart. I shall do my best to stay in touch with the IC community. I am fortunate to come to know so many people here and it has been a home form home for me all along. Your kindness and that of many others lik you keeps me going.

Godbless you my dear friend. 

FR

Dear FR, please let us know if there is any thing I can do

I am not a religious person but I can wish and I wish the best. But if there is any thing that I can do, please do not hesitate.

Likewise Vildemose jan, my best wishes to you and if there is any thing that I can help, I would be honored.

Mehrdad

Farah jan, your comment left me kind of speechless

Farah jan, your comment left me a bit speechless but no apology is needed. I also hope your health improves. I have realized that all I know is that there are (or sadly were) great people that I have known during my life and what I am today, good or bad is because of knowing them. I am glad that because of IC, I have come to make new friends including you and I want all my friends alive and prosperous, reaching for their dreams. Again my best wishes to you.

Dear FR: Please keep us

Dear FR: Please keep us posted on your condition.

You are a treasure trove of insights and unique info/perspectives. . You have lived an enchanted life it seems; full of joy,  trials and tubulation. I think your memoir would be a best seller if you wrote one.

Wish you health and healing. Love you too.

Bavafa jan: Thank you for

Bavafa jan: Thank you for being so kind and caring. I'm however blessed in so many ways. Life has been moving in mysterious ways for me lately. I don't know where it would lead. I just hope and pray for the higest possible good for all involved in this tangled web we call life.

Dear Legion, Mehrdad and Marhoum

You are all so very kind and caring. I hope that with your good wishes and prayers my condition improves. I love you all.

 Best

Farah 

ps - apologies to Anahid-e aziz for the digression I may have caused.

Dear vildemose and 13th legion

Dear 13 thanks for your informative comment and beautiful poem.

Dear vildemose, I am having computer problems this morning. It takes sometimes more than 30 minutes to see your e-mail on my mobile device so sorry if it took me a while to see your e-mail. IT is going to be like this for some hours today.

Anahid jaan,

Anahid jaan,Yes, I can surely relate to your poem,Goreezi az in baran va booseh haye gah aram o gah tondash nist,Shayad be hamin khater ast ke sorkh poostaneh ghadeeme NORTHWEST bish az sad naam baraye anvaeh motefavete baran dar in naheieh az keshvar dashtand!

Your friendly note also reminded me of this beautiful poem about friends posted below.

I would also like to wish our friends that are dealing with health issues a full and speedy recovery,My good thoughts are with you ;)  

·         من دلم مي خواهدخانه ­ای داشته باشم پر دوستکنج هر ديوارش دوستهايم بنشينند آرام گل بگو گل بشنوهرکسي مي­خواهد وارد خانه پر عشق و صفايم گردديک سبد بوي گل سرخ به من هديه کند...شرط وارد گشتن شست و شوي دلهاستشرط آن داشتن يک دل بي ­رنگ و رياستبر درش برگ گلي مي­کوبم روي آن با قلم سبز بهار مي نويسماي يار خانه ­ما اينجاستتا که سهراب نپرسد ديگر " خانه دوست کج... 

Anahid jan: check you email.

Anahid jan: check your email.

Dear 13th Legion and Monda jan, growth is always great

Dear friends, both of your comments indicate that in past few years, there have been new experiences for you which you have learned from. Dear 13th, I left Pacific Northwest almnost 15 years ago. I believe move was good for me but I miss that area and the people. This is a short poem that your comment inspired me:
Doost, aanja ke to hastee
Man engar payman ba Baran bastam
Ke harkoja harzaman hastam
Beyad aram boosehayash
Va chegoone goreezee az anan nabood

Same theme, different colors

joonam baraat begeh: I enjoy the state of being "a work in progress"... acquiring automatic re-definitions of the Work and the Progress : )

Also, the old "the more I see, the more things are the same" - propels me to see More. 

Anahid and Mehrdad

Thanks for the kind words. I appreciate it.

It is indeed getting harder and more complicated. As much as I try to simplify things, I find myslef worrying about things I may not have control over - Like I said, be thankful you have your health (which you hopefully do).

Like the wise man once said: "don't sweat the small stuff...."

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IRAN FIRST

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Marhoum Kharmagas , thanks for the laughter

You made me laugh when you questioned my wisdom (as always) in your comment. I question it too when I am nice to you ;D.

Dear Cost-of-Progress, yes, it seems it gets more complicated

Dear COP, sorry to read about health problems in your family. In past six months, My dad's health has deteriorated too. Evevn though at his age, I am supposed to be able to accept this, it is never easy to accept a loved one's health decline. Thanks for sharing your worries about future. Yes, I agree with you where you write that as we get older, it gets more complicated.

Dear FR, COP and Vildemose,

I was truly saddened to read about your situation and wish the best for all of you. I am specially sorry and sad to hear about health related issues as financial situation is always recoverable.

My best wishes.

Mehrdad

Dear Anahid,

I must say I have had very similar experiences to our dear friends “Khar” and “Souri”, a gradual and prolonged mid-life crisis that started around late 2006 when after living and growing up in sunny southern Cali for some 23 years I thought that somehow the grass may be greener on the other side and decided to move to the pacific northwest in order to experience life from a different perspective and also be closer to family, only to find out later on that “home is where the heart is”. The first year and half of this geographic change was very difficult “like a stranger in a strange land” but after that I managed to land a very lucrative employment contract that boosted my financial and mental moral and allowed me to experience life and its wonders in different ways while the rest of the country was deep into the resection but as it is the nature of life “nothing lasts forever and things are in a constant state of change” by Oct of 2009 my wonderful contract ended and I to joined the ranks of the unemployed, as prepared as I was, life still managed to give me a very good taste of the bitter and deep reality of the potent and severe tragedy of the state of the economy! As khar mentioned I think the whole experience made me more realistic and grounded in many ways and has greatly contributed to my mental and spiritual growth, most importantly it made me once more seek and investigate the importance of “shifting perspectives” and the way we sometimes condition ourselves to believe what we can and cannot do based on the way we “think” at a certain moment in time and to go beyond what we may “think” our limits are! As a good friend once seed; “life is an overwhelming experience for most of us” but I still find life to be a joyful mystery waiting to be discovered and that with a little hope, boldness, perseverance and patience the possibilities are endless ;)

Thank you for posting this great blog Anahid.

MS. Farah Rusta:I have always been a fan of your writing and the way you think and as a result I have felt a bond with you, but your last comments got me worried my friend! I hope that you are exaggerating in some way and do not literally mean what you say? find a way to contact me my friend, my good thoughts and energy are with you ;) 

a wise question from Anahita!

Wisdom is one of Anahita's attributes ( //en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anahita ), in case of our IC version of the goddess I have never seen it but this time. ......... related to the topic, the other day arguing with my son, I was thinking

nime omaram dar pashimaani .....

           nime digar dar .......

Maybe Shoaraaye azeez-e IC (Souri, the goddess, Calypso [another IC goddess] ...) can post about that Sher/Shaar..., I don't remember the details.

Calypso, sad to hear that.

Dear vildemose, thanks for your heartfelt comment

Dear vildemose, I will e-mail you later. Thanks for sharing.

Overall

yes! Had an illness in the immediate family recently that has changed things for us. I also see myself as less hopeful for the future, probably due to the economic climate of the past few years and although I was not laid off or loose my job, the overall situation seems to have made its impact regardless....I worry about my kids and their future, that's for sure.

It just seems like as you get older, things get more complicated.

Having said all this, one should be thankful if he/she and family are healthy. Ultimately, that's what matters most.

Thanks for this blog.

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IRAN FIRST

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Anhaid jan: My life changed

Anhaid jan: My life changed forever on October 23rd of this year and I don't think it's ever going to be the same. I'm still in reeling from the shock of it all. Can't go into details but if you are interested you can email me.

Dear Ari, thanks for your comment

Ari jan, kids leaving for college must be really significant, because so many of us spend a great amount of time with our kids when they are home.  I like how you noted that from now on, more major changes will be in your kids' lives since their lives are more dynamic. I think sometimes I like that my life is less dynamic than some other times in my life. For instance when I was 24, in a matter of four months, I got married,  graduated from university, moved to a new city and started my first grown up full time job.  A bit too dynamic if you ask me.

Two years ago, not so much

Dear friends, thanks for all your responses so far

Dear bfarahmand, khar, perssimon, Roozbeh Gilani, yolanda and David aziz, thanks for all your responses so far. Again, many of you have had significant changes in your life. Birth of kids, separation, mid life crisis, and please note that here I am just listing type of changes not implying that same person had birth of kids, separation and then mid life crisis :).